I believe that we have lost the cornerstone of our state.  The family and marriage are the foundation of a good family.

A family without the foundation of marriage is without the foundation of marriage.

Sadly, we now have more divorcés then marriages. If your parents divorced the odds are you will be divorced. The deepest sadness is the children never really cope with it, for the rest of their life.

Almost half of young mothers have a child without a father in the home. A family is not complete without the father and husband in the home.

In California more than half of the marriages end in divorce.

What does divorce do to our society?

Divorce tears the fabric of the family commitment to pieces and devastates the children and the parents involved. A divorce may cause you to suffer true loss, depression, loneliness, angry, and anxiety.  No one wins.

This in turn causes some people to seek relief.  Some families are able to seek psychological help from psychiatrists and counselors. However, the average Joe does not have the money in which to seek help, so the pain gets buried, deeply, and no one recovers.  The dysfunction continues.

Research shows that doctors treating the divorced find depression is a problem.  The doctor will give a prescription.  It makes us feel better so it may cause the patient to want more and could cause addiction.

Children are so deeply affected by divorce that 50% of all children coming from a divorced home are more likely to seek divorce themselves.

Usually the only people who benefit from divorce are the lawyers and doctors.

For these reasons and more I propose anyone seeking a marriage license in California will be required to have premarital counseling for ninety days and a full one year engagement. Preferably two years.

I am not trying to tell you what you should or should not do; I’m only trying to reduce the overwhelming divorces and the devastation of children.  Think about it.  Over time, using this valuable time to understand your partner and get to know each other will ensure both parties involved understand the true enormity of marital responsibility and if you are really a good fit.

The counseling will include information such as getting to know your husband/wife to be truly in depth and learning why marriage is a lifetime commitment.

Pre marital counselors will have to publicize their success rates.  This will aid couples in determining which counselor they choose. This process should and will eliminate many divorces. The bottom line is having the house of marriage all in order before you say I do.

A good number of the churches and other organizations are doing that now. The Catholic Church some years ago said that they would take the blame for 2/3 of divorces today, because they did not go through counseling.

The church set up a nationwide program that includes premarital counseling before you get married in the church. It has most definitely cut down on the number of divorces, but still, over all, the divorce rate has risen.

I firmly believe we can cut the divorce rate down, but, realistically, we will never completely eliminate divorce.

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